We all go through that: grief, loss and bereavement are something that everyone experiences at some time in the life. Sometimes we can deal with it: we keep the emotion under the control and do not break into uncontrollable weeping, but the grief is still there and is not resolved.

Leaving grief and loss unresolved might often become major unrecognized factors behind many emotional problems such as depression, lack of concentration, procrastination, lack of motivation, sleep disorder, temper, self-injury, guilt, mid-life crisis etc. Extreme grief can even cause problems in relationships, with family members and friends, with job, and with just about everything in life as well. Leaving grief unresolved for a long time, according to studies, might cause chronic illnesses.

We all know that time heals many wounds. How long it can take? You don’t have to wait for time to heal your heartache. Healing does not mean you forget. It just means that you preserve love and happy memories, but you remember differently, feel the way you want to feel and go forward with life. When you want to feel differently and be in control while honoring and remembering loved ones, then I can help you move through the grief more quickly and smoothly.

What to expect

Before we meet I ask you to fill out a simple intake form and send me back by e-mail or mail. After analyzing received information I am ready to ask you more specific questions and run a short assessment while meeting you either in person or via Skype. That meeting is complimentary and helps me understand if I can help you or not. It also gives you an opportunity to meet me and find out more on techniques I use, the way I work and how you feel with me. At the end of the meeting I am able to inform you if I can help you or not. When I can help then I tell you what technology I use, how many sessions it takes and how much your investment is. With all that information you decide how to proceed.

We start by understanding your unique situation. You tell me what you remember and we find out how you remember. It is very important to bring to your conscious awareness these two components of your memory: what and how.

Our next step is to figure out your emotions’ unique structure, their building elements and what triggers them. Emotions are part of our intelligence: emotions are like signals, letting us know when we need to pay extra attention to some aspects of our experience. We quickly check possible benefits your emotions might provide you and with special techniques preserve them in a resourceful way.

Then we go through a process which helps you understand and consciously decide to think in a certain way about your loss, on what you want to remember and how you want to remember and feel. This is a conscious process. Our next step is to address your unconscious patterns. Imagination is much more powerful than willpower since our brain somehow does not differentiate between reality and vivid imagination. Techniques that employ imagination meant to re-program our unconscious patterns of what we think (remember in this case), feel and do. Together, this two-step process helps you take back your inner strength and gives you an ability to move forward with life.

As soon as you understand how you create your emotions and learn techniques to master them, you reach your moment of freedom and choice: since after that you are going to feel and/or act differently mostly in a way you choose. The pain will be gone and love will stay.

Moreover, techniques you learn are going to serve you for the rest of your life to master any emotion and live in peace with yourself and others.

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Although we experience grief around the loss of dear people through death, estrangement (loved one or a friend), loss of trust, physical absence, or loss of intimacy we also pretty often suffer emotional pain in response to loss of anything that is very important to us such as a pet, job, one's sense of safety, a home, the way we used to live (when moved to a nursing home and so one), or even a dream. The intensity of the loss could be extremely high.

I offer the same gentle and compassionate process of learning and bringing back your inner strength to resolve the grief and move forward with life.

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If you are a caregiver or a friend or a relative of a person with a terminal illness - the same gentle and compassionate process is to resolve pre-grieving and can help making good use of the little time that you have left with the dying person and prepare for a future loss.